tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-69209107993877191142023-09-26T05:28:09.013-07:00ExhasidUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6920910799387719114.post-32836252403798942052012-03-06T13:40:00.001-08:002012-03-06T13:40:54.353-08:00Explosive: Court Documents Undercut Core of New Best Selling Book<h3 class="post-title entry-title">
<a href="http://deborah-feldman-exposed.blogspot.com/2012/03/explosive-court-documents-undercut-core.html">Explosive: Court Documents Undercut Core of New Best Selling Book</a>
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By: Yossi Gestetner<br />
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Court documents dated late 2003 which followed a custody request,
challenge the authenticity of the recently best-selling memoir,
“Unorthodox,” which was authored by Ms. Deborah Feldman.<br />
<br />
In the book, the author fails to mention that her mother, who according
to the book left the Hasidic Community latest 1990, actually gave birth
to another girl in November 1994. When challenged as to why she omitted
the existence of a younger sister that was born to the same set of
parents five years after the mother ‘abandoned’ the family, the author
responded (in a March 2nd blog post) that her sister is still a minor
and therefore she did not mention her.<br />
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This feeble answer left many people wondering why the author didn’t
allude to this fact by simply stating in the book, “I have a younger
sister that (until several months ago) lived with my mother.”<br />
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Well, the reasons for this omission are surprising:<br />
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1) The author notes (pg. 4) that before writing the book, she asked
her mother why she did not take her to live with her after she left. The
author laments that the mother said “she had no money [to fight] and my
father’s family threatened to make her life miserable if she tried to
take me away.” This is contrary to what happened with the author’s
younger sister who did live with her mother until late 2011. Had readers
been aware of this little fact, they would wonder how Deborah’s mother
had money to fight for her younger sister and not for Deborah and why
the father’s family “threatened to make her mother’s life miserable”
only if she fights for Deborah and not her younger sibling. By avoiding
to mention a sister, Deborah paved the way to create falsehoods as to
why she did not leave to live with her mother and to paint her family as
radically anti-women; who suppressed a lesbian-woman who chose to leave
for freedom.<br />
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2) By omitting the existence of a younger sister that was born in
late 1994, Deborah can perpetuate the all important component of a drama
story: The mother ‘abandoned’ the family when Deborah was a mere
toddler, which is to say latest 1990. But of course, with a sister born
when Deborah was seven-eight, the falsehood flies out the window.
Besides, Deborah’s mother attests in <a href="http://my.citysearch.com/members/public/profile/Shoshana+Berkovic">an internet post</a>
in the summer of 2010 that she left the family “seven years ago,” which
is to say in late 2003 when Deborah was sixteen. Finally, how did
Deborah show up <a href="http://failedmessiah.typepad.com/failed_messiahcom/2012/03/a-picture-exposes-the-lie-567.html">in this photo</a> at age seven standing in front of smiling parents if her mother had “abandoned” her a few years earlier?<br />
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3) Most explosive of all are court papers dating back to late 2003,
signed by now-former Judge the Honorable Paul Grosvenor. It shows
clearly that the mother who – according to Feldman ‘had no money to
fight’ – actually dragged the father to court asking for custody of BOTH
children! This means, she had money to fight; and to fight for both,
and was not an ‘abandoning’ person to begin with. After back-and-forth
proceedings, both sides came to a court-approved agreement which
stipulates that the Zaidy and his son, the father of Feldman, got the
two things they wanted: a) The younger sister, then only nine years old,
should continue attending a Jewish school and b) that the father should
have visiting rights. The mother as part of the willful deal agreed to
both, but as for the latter, she wanted a third party to supervise the
visitations. The third party was to be… The Zaidy! Apparently, the
mother had no issue that the Zaidy, this supposed abuser who ‘threatened
to make life miserable,’ should be the one overseeing the visits.<br />
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The likely reason why Deborah’s mother did not put up much of a fight
for Deborah is she was sixteen-seventeen at time of the court proceeding
with a mind of her own. But more importantly is an event which dates
back to the second half of the 1990s when Deborah was 10 or 11: <b>Her
mother hit her so severely that she ran down the flight of stairs to
Bubby and Zaidy’s who lived on flight below. Deborah resolutely stated
that she does not want to go back to her mother. Her extended family,
which was always there for her, took her in to live with them. From then
on, Deborah did not have much to do with her mother except for when her
mother came down from the above apartment to check on Deborah and to
visit the husband’s extended family.</b><br />
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This undisclosed fact of Deborah life at age ten likely also explains
why Feldman conspicuously starts detailing her memoir only from when she
was age eleven: It a) permits her to omit the real reason why the
family got involved in her life and how she landed up in the care of
Bubby and Zaidy, and b) by omitting life before sixth grade the author
can sell a narrative of being raised in an extreme Satmar family who
wanted to control her and thus the aunt placed her into Satmar school to
‘keep tabs’ on her.<br />
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However, <a href="http://failedmessiah.typepad.com/failed_messiahcom/2012/03/more-evidence-deborah-feldman-lied-678.html">as class photos prove</a>,
the author actually attended two different schools before her aunt took
her into Satmer. She attended Adas Yereim, the most liberal Hasidic
school in Williamsburg, and then, until age ten, she attended Bais Yakov
of Lower East side, a non-Hasidic Orthodox Jewish school outside of
Williamsburg. No extreme Hasidic family sends their kids to either of
these schools. Deborah landed up in there because her family is of the
most liberal in Williamsburg, and the only reason she ended up in Satmar
is because she was likely expelled from both schools. As a result,
Satmar the school where her the ‘bad’ aunt was the long-time principal,
was the only school willing to accept this troubled girl into their
system under the wings of the aunt.<br />
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By omitting these important details, Deborah successfully distorted
history to suit her needs. Indeed, no good deed goes unpunished.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6920910799387719114.post-88677303026398945732012-03-01T08:38:00.001-08:002012-03-01T08:38:11.996-08:00The second coming of James Frey? Hasidic Jews charge that one of their own has published a memoir full of lies<div class="entry_info clearfix" style="width: 100%;">
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BY Alexander Nazaryan</div>
<img alt="70245722.jpeg" src="http://www.nydailynews.com/blogs/sites/default/files/u197/70245722.jpeg" style="float: right; height: 175px; margin-bottom: 5px; margin-left: 5px; margin-right: 5px; margin-top: 5px; width: 116px;" /><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><em>Note: This is a longer version of <a href="http://www.nydailynews.com/new-york/hasidic-jews-brooklyn-blast-deborah-feldman-unorthodox-memoir-pure-fiction-article-1.1030825?localLinksEnabled=false">an article</a> that appears in today's Daily News.</em></span><br />
The memoir is a devilish genre. The pull of embellishment must be
great, for even the most ordinary life has its dull moments. Why subject
your readers to the mundane, when one or two novelistic flourishes can
add the necessary sheen? (<em>Photo: Simon & Schuster</em>)<br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">And calling
an enhanced memoir what it is – a novel – won’t do. Weaned on reality
shows and social networking, today’s readers demand lived experiences.
Invention doesn't cut it anymore.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: 12px;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Thus
we arrive at James Frey, crying on Oprah’s couch because he had been
unable to admit that “A Million Little Pieces” was not quite the
truthful account he had claimed it was.<br />
<br />
And thus we arrive, also, at Deborah Feldman, driving Barbara Walters to the verge of tears on “The View” on Feb 14.<br />
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But not because Feldman’s memoir, “<a href="http://www.deborahfeldman.com/about-me.php">Unorthodox</a>,”
had been revealed as a work of fiction. The women of “The View,”
Walters especially, had the highest praise for her book, which they
described as an honest account of the insular Hasidic community of
Williamsburg, Brooklyn, that Feldman left after being forced into
marriage at 17 and motherhood at 19.<br />
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But while Frey and Feldman could not come from more different
backgrounds, they seem to have arrived in the same place, two memoirists
having to fend off damning accusations of deceit.<br />
</span></span><br />
<img alt="2blog-unorthodox-2712_1.jpeg" src="http://www.nydailynews.com/blogs/sites/default/files/u197/2blog-unorthodox-2712_1.jpeg" style="float: left; height: 250px; margin-bottom: 5px; margin-left: 5px; margin-right: 5px; margin-top: 5px; width: 164px;" /><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Furor
among Hasidic Jews has been building long before Feldman published her
book – her writing initially appeared on her blog, Hasidic-Feminist. Now
that her book is receiving acclaim (with reviews calling her book “<a href="http://www.newsday.com/entertainment/books/harrowing-unorthodox-by-deborah-feldman-1.3535946">harrowing</a>”
and “poignant”), they are acutely angry that Feldman has gained
literary success by portraying them as a backwards, repressive
community.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">And while
some of what the Jewish blogosphere has said about Feldman is, itself,
little more than vitriol, serious accusations have come out – on blogs
like <a href="http://failedmessiah.typepad.com/failed_messiahcom/2012/02/deborah-feldman-lies-again-123.html">Failed Messiah</a> and <a href="http://deborah-feldman-exposed.blogspot.com/">Exposing the Lies and Fabrications of Deborah Feldman</a></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">, not to mention <a href="http://www.thejewishweek.com/news/new_york/unorthodox_authors_claim_cover_up_countered">The Jewish Week</a> and the venerable Forward, which called her book “<a href="http://blogs.forward.com/sisterhood-blog/151489/">more than ‘Unorthodox</a>.’”</span><br />
<span style="font-size: 12px;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">This
much appears to be almost certainly true: Deborah Feldman, now 25, was
born to Eugen and Shoshana Berkovic of Penn St., Brooklyn. They were
Satmar Jews – an insular sect that settled in Williamsburg after the
Holocaust and lives in what some call a wholesale rejection of
modernity.<br />
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Feldman’s father has a low IQ and has held only menial jobs. Feldman
went to the UTA Yeshiva, a highly religious school where Yiddish was
spoken and secular literature was forbidden.<br />
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At 17, she was married to a man named Eli. At 19, she had a son. She
and Eli moved to Kiryas Joel, in upstate New York, which they felt was a
less suffocating environment than Brooklyn.<br />
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But by 23, she had enough. She left her husband, taking her son with
her. She took writing classes at Sarah Lawrence College. She got a book
deal with Simon & Schuster. Now, she is just another ordinary New
Yorker.<br />
<br />
Well, not ordinary. Most aspiring writers would murder to publish with the kind of publicity Feldman has received.<br />
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The problem is that much of her memoir may not be true, according to
ardent critics. These include family members, neighbors and even New
York State authorities.<br />
</span></span><br />
<img alt="369115_1378538278_284795804_n.jpeg" src="http://www.nydailynews.com/blogs/sites/default/files/u197/369115_1378538278_284795804_n.jpeg" style="float: right; height: 135px; margin-bottom: 5px; margin-left: 5px; margin-right: 5px; margin-top: 5px; width: 180px;" /><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">In
the book, Feldman charges her mother – who was apparently burdened by
the pressures of Satmar life – with a “mysterious disappearance” when
Feldman was a toddler.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: 12px;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">In
fact, it takes about 30 seconds to find Shoshana Berkovic on both
Twitter and Facebook. She is a science teacher at New Utrecht High
School and does not appear to have ever left Brooklyn. She did divorce
her husband, as court records indicate. But that was in 2010, more than a
decade after Feldman accuses her mother with leaving her behind. (<em>Shoshana Berkovic / Facebook</em>)<br />
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Feldman leaves out another relevant fact about her family – that she
has a sister, now 17 and living with her mother. For reasons I cannot
quite fathom, she entirely deletes her sister’s existence from what is
supposed to be a truthful account of her life.<br />
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And while Feldman waxes poetic about how she had to sneak secular
literature (“Reading an English book is…a welcome mat put out for the
devil”), neighbor Pearl Engleman distinctly remembers Berkovic taking
both of her daughters to the public library on Fridays. “Flat-out lies”
is what Engleman calls Feldman’s description of her family life.<br />
<br />
Feldman writes in great detail about her strict religious education in
Williamsburg. But she fails to mention that she only attended the
supposedly restrictive UTA for four years – and that only after being
kicked out of a much more lax yeshiva in Manhattan, Bas Yaakov of the
lower East Side. A cousin says that Feldman was expelled for making
comments about sex.<br />
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But this is the worst of it: Feldman alleges that when she and her
husband were living in Kiryas Joel, Eli learned from his brother Cheskel
that a 13 year old boy had been murdered by his father for
masturbating. The father, according to Feldman’s account, cut off the
boy’s penis and let him bleed to death. The Jewish ambulance service,
known as Hatzalah, supposedly helped cover up the crime.<br />
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Fascinating, but at the very least dubious. As Hella Winston of The
Jewish Week first reported and the Daily News confirmed, the young man
in question was seven years older than Feldman reported, and evidence
from the coroner, the New York State police, ambulance workers who
reported the crime and family members of the dead man all overwhelmingly
suggest that the young man (an allegedly troubled individual) died from
slitting his own throat.<br />
<br />
An uncle of the dead man calls Feldman a “psychopath.”<br />
<br />
And yet she persist in her claims. <a href="http://deborahfeldman.tumblr.com/">A post on her Tumblr reads</a>,
“I can only be responsible for the things I write. I cannot be
responsible for what reporters write. Misunderstandings,
misinterpretations, and just plain getting the facts wrong is common in
journalism. But anything I sign my name to, I will stand by.”<br />
<br />
Nor will Simon & Schuster make her available for an interview. Her
publicist, Kate Gales, sent me the following statement: “Deborah
Feldman’s 'Unorthodox' is an inspiring memoir that recounts, from the
author’s perspective, her experiences as a child growing up in the
Satmar community, and her eventual departure from that life. We are
confident that 'Unorthodox' accurately presents her deeply personal
recollections of that journey.”<br />
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But that has hardly quelled critics. “Doesn’t Simon & Schuster check its facts?” wonders Engleman.<br />
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Feldman seemingly deals with that question in “Unorthodox” when she
describes a novel she enjoyed as a teenager: “Even if the book claims
it’s a novel, I read it like a breathtaking piece of raw journalism,
because the stories detailed within are so current and real, they could
be happening to me, and I know that the author must have at least based
the book on her intimate life experiences.”<br />
<br />
Not an answer that will comfort her many critics.</span></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6920910799387719114.post-1670211044285694742012-03-01T08:07:00.000-08:002012-03-01T08:07:59.068-08:00Exposing the Lies and Fabrications of Deborah Feldman: The NY Daily News: Unorthodox is a Novel and not a Memoir<a href="http://deborah-feldman-exposed.blogspot.com/2012/03/ny-daily-news-unorthodox-is-novel-and.html#comment-form">Exposing the Lies and Fabrications of Deborah Feldman: The NY Daily News: Unorthodox is a Novel and not a Memoir</a>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6920910799387719114.post-71332582255511085702012-02-28T09:07:00.005-08:002012-02-28T09:07:44.839-08:00A Satmar Woman's Response To Deborah Feldman<em><strong> http://www.jewishpress.com</strong></em><br />
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<em><strong>A Female Member of the Satmar Community in Williamsburg</strong> takes Deborah Feldman to task for her allegations in a recent newspaper interview…</em><br />
She now calls herself Deborah, but I remember her as Suri. We grew up
together and attended the same school from fifth through twelfth grade.
(She was actually my younger sister’s grade mate, a couple of years my
junior.) She came to Satmar when Bais Yaakov of Vien, the most liberal
of Williamsburg’s schools for girls, would no longer tolerate her
behavioral issues.<br />
Her aunt (whom she refers to as Aunt Chaya in her book and whom she
speaks of disparagingly) was the English principal of our school. A
highly respected, refined and with-it woman, she vouched for her niece
and took upon herself to give Suri the best possible school experience.<br />
Seems like Suri has repaid the kindness in spades. Based solely on
her own dysfunctional upbringing (which has undoubtedly stoked her
rebellious streak), she has shamelessly sunk so low as to trash an
entire community. It boggles the mind… and sadly speaks for itself. What
I can say with absolute certainty is that she did not undergo most of
what she claims she did, and I would like to counter some of her blatant
fabrications.<br />
To begin with, classy and intelligent people do not grant interviews
to tabloid papers, unless they are willing to do whatever it takes to
get publicity. When I’ll be in a forgiving mood, I’ll be<em> dan l’kaf zchus</em>
(give her the benefit of the doubt) that maybe the paper deliberately
twisted her words. But something tells me they were her own. After all,
sensationalism sells.<br />
<em>Deception:</em> Suri lays it on thick when asked to describe a
bathing suit worn in summer camp: “Picture this really shiny nylon
fabric and thick, floppy, long sleeves, and pants covered with an extra
layer of material to make it look like a skirt.” <em>The real thing:</em> At most, a “<em>chassidish</em>”
bathing suit is a short-sleeve dress reaching mid-thigh, made of thin
spandex fabric; quite comfortable, in fact, as well as modest.<br />
<em>Fiction:</em> The subject of (sex) relations was a total mystery
to Suri and her husband, she alleges. A bright, open-minded and
inquisitive girl who managed to hide books under her bed, Suri would
have us believe that she skipped the library’s reading material on
anatomy and sex? Even the most naïve of Satmar girls are pretty much
aware of what awaits them on their wedding night, so spare us the
dramatics Suri.<br />
<em>Falsehood:</em> As a longtime Williamsburg resident and a mother
myself, I can attest that children transported in cars are properly
buckled into their safety seats and that all mothers take their children
for regular visits (and then some) to their pediatricians. If Suri was
ever seated in the front of a car without a seatbelt and was never taken
to a doctor (both of which she asserts), it could well have been the
direct result of her dysfunctional home environment (what with a
mentally unstable father and an absentee mother).<br />
<em>Distortion:</em> Contrary to her assertion that at seventeen she
was deemed to be on the old end of marriageable age, seventeen is, in
point of fact, regarded as being on the young end, the norm being
eighteen to twenty-one.<br />
<em>Invention 1:</em> “Deborah” divulges that chassidish women are
not allowed to eat out. Huh? I challenge anyone to walk down Lee Avenue
in Williamsburg at any given time of day or night where eateries are
packed with chassidish women. We may not be eating pork or crab cake
sandwiches, but we are certainly enjoying the finest in heimishe food
and delicacies. (You’ll find many of us eating out at kosher food
establishments outside of Williamsburg as well.)<br />
<em>Invention 2:</em> Curfew for women? That’s news to me. In my
Satmar Williamsburg world, my friends and I have frequently returned
home after midnight (unescorted by our men), and we have yet to be
stopped or told that this is inappropriate.<br />
A transcript of an ABC review of Deborah Feldman’s book has just
diminished Suri’s credibility to zero in my book. Her claim of being
“subtly molested during a cleansing bath – a <em>mikvah</em> – to ensure her purity” is utterly preposterous. No one gets into the <em>mikvah</em>
water with a woman during her ritual cleansing. As for “the entire
community” being in on her virginal status after failure to consummate
her marriage, well, Suri, that sure is news to me. I had no idea!<br />
Newly married couples in communities such as ours are fortunate to
have a support system if and when needed, but at the same time a married
twosome can just as well opt to maintain their privacy. Presuming
Deborah’s grandparents/in-laws displayed over-protectiveness (a weakness
on the part of many parents of married children across the globe), it
may have been a manifestation of their compassion for a motherless
child.<br />
If Satmar Chassidism was torture for Suri, her amenable husband was
the antidote — a great guy who also happened to be very tolerant of his
wife’s need to be “different.” As a matter of fact, they relocated to a
different neighborhood (a substantial distance from Williamsburg) not
long after they married, where Suri would feel less “stifled.”<br />
She was thus given the opportunity to establish independence from her
supposedly overbearing family and could have eased into a less
stringent lifestyle, albeit still as a practicing orthodox Jew. But Suri
chose rather to immerse herself in fantasies spun by the novels of
which she couldn’t get enough. Her imagination was further fueled by the
support of her new friends and college courses she was taking (such as
writing).<br />
And in the process, she did more than unshackle herself from the
“confines of Hasidic Satmar” — she shed her light of spirituality … in
exchange for the darkness of materialism.<br />
Yes, Suri, we in the Satmar community take upon ourselves to live
“beyond the letter of the law” — not in spite of the world we live in
but because of the world we live in, so as to avoid the danger of
getting “to the edge and jumping off” into an abyss. We love our
beautiful way of life (contrary to your ludicrous insinuations) and are
devastated by the distortions and web of falsehoods you have woven into
your “memoir” — fundamentally an attack on all segments of Orthodox
Jewry.<br />
It is hard for me to believe that this woman will get away with all
the untruths and inconsistencies put out there. When called on his lies,
James Frey, the author of “A Million Little Pieces”, claimed to have
literary reasons for his fabrications. He defended “the right of
memoirists to draw upon their memories, not simply upon documented
facts,” but he eventually was made to own up to his untruthfulness in
newer editions of his publication.<br />
I expect the same to happen to Deborah Feldman.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6920910799387719114.post-42408864250508857792012-02-27T10:06:00.004-08:002012-02-27T10:06:43.048-08:00Did Deborah Feldman Misrepresent Her Academic Background?<h3 class="entry-header">
<b>Failedmessiah</b></h3>
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<b>Did Deborah Feldman Misrepresent Her Academic Background?</b></h3>
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<strong> <a href="http://failedmessiah.typepad.com/.a/6a00d83451b71f69e20163020bfb7b970d-popup" style="float: right;"><img alt="Deborah Feldman closeup" class="asset asset-image at-xid-6a00d83451b71f69e20163020bfb7b970d" src="http://failedmessiah.typepad.com/.a/6a00d83451b71f69e20163020bfb7b970d-100wi" style="margin: 0px 0px 5px 5px; width: 100px;" title="Deborah Feldman closeup" /></a><span style="font-size: 11pt;">The
author of "Unorthodox" claims to have received a scholarship to study
at Sarah Lawrence, and she's said she was admitted without having a high
school diploma or a transcript. How much, if anything, of this is true?</span></strong><br />
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<a href="http://failedmessiah.typepad.com/.a/6a00d83451b71f69e201676300aed5970b-popup" style="display: inline;"><img alt="Deborah Feldman closeup" class="asset asset-image at-xid-6a00d83451b71f69e201676300aed5970b" src="http://failedmessiah.typepad.com/.a/6a00d83451b71f69e201676300aed5970b-400wi" style="width: 400px;" title="Deborah Feldman closeup" /></a><br /><span style="font-size: 8pt;"><em>Deborah Feldman</em></span><br />
Is Deborah Feldman lying about her college education?<br />
Listen to her brief interview (posted below) with Leonard Lopate,
which was recorded a few days ago. when you hear it, you'd think Feldman
was admitted to a BA program at Sarah Lawrence – without a high school
diploma or a transcript! – and was still studying there.<br />
But I'm told that she was admitted to a <a href="http://www.slc.edu/ce/writing-institute/index.html" target="_blank">writing program through the Continuing Education</a> division of Sarah Lawrence. <a href="http://www.slc.edu/ce/writing-institute/Information.html" target="_blank">It does not require transcripts or even a high school diploma</a>. (Please see the application posted at the end of this post.)<br />
I'm also told that Feldman has not been a student at Sarah Lawrence since 2010.<br />
It seems Feldman just can't tell the truth.<br />
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<a href="http://failedmessiah.typepad.com/.a/6a00d83451b71f69e20163020c1148970d-pi" style="display: inline;"><img alt="SLC_WI_Registration_Form_120611" class="asset asset-image at-xid-6a00d83451b71f69e20163020c1148970d" src="http://failedmessiah.typepad.com/.a/6a00d83451b71f69e20163020c1148970d-400wi" style="width: 400px;" title="SLC_WI_Registration_Form_120611" /></a>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6920910799387719114.post-6886696956562826172012-02-23T14:35:00.002-08:002012-02-23T14:35:53.110-08:00'Unorthodox' Author’s Claim Of Murder Cover-up Rebutted<div id="content-header"><h1 class="title"> 'Unorthodox' Author’s Claim Of Murder Cover-up Rebutted </h1></div><div class="facebookshare-box"><a href="http://www.facebook.com/sharer.php?u=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.thejewishweek.com%2Fnews%2Fbreaking_news%2Funorthodox_authors_claim_murder_cover_up_rebutted&t=%27Unorthodox%27%20Author%E2%80%99s%20Claim%20Of%20Murder%20Cover-up%20Rebutted%20%7C%20The%20Jewish%20Week&src=sp" name="fb_share" style="text-decoration: none;" type="box_count"></a></div><div class="field field-subhead">Coroner’s report lists 20-year-old’s death in Kiryas Joel as suicide.</div><div class="field field-pubdate"><span class="date-display-single">Thursday, February 16, 2012</span> </div><div class="field field-byline">Hella Winston </div><div class="field field-jobtitle">Special to the Jewish Week </div><br />
POSTED THURSDAY, FEB. 16, 4:30 P.M.<br />
With allegations of communal cover-ups involving child sexual abuse dogging the haredi community over the past several years, it may not be much of a stretch for some readers to believe a gruesome story that appears in a new memoir about growing up in, and leaving, the Satmar community.<br />
The story, recounted by Deborah Feldman in “Unorthodox: The Scandalous Rejection of My Hasidic Roots” (Simon and Schuster), involves the alleged mutilation and murder of a boy by his own father — supposedly for masturbating — and the subsequent cover-up of the crime by Hatzolah, the community’s volunteer ambulance service.<br />
The only problem, however, is that based on information obtained by The Jewish Week, the story seems not be true.<br />
Feldman claims she first learned of the grisly crime from her husband who had, in turn, heard about it from his brother, allegedly a member of Hatzolah at the time, who had been called to the blood-soaked scene. Apparently, the boy’s “penis was cut off with a jig saw and his throat was slit too,” Feldman writes.<br />
Feldman recounts that her husband told her his brother “said the neighbors told him they heard loud arguing coming from the house. When he called the [volunteer ambulance] dispatch, they told him to go home and keep quiet about it, that they would take care of it. He said they buried him in thirty minutes and they didn’t even issue a death certificate.”<br />
In a pre-publication interview with Julie Wiener in The Jewish Week, Feldman was questioned about the veracity of the story. Feldman not only insisted that she was not lying, but asserted that the father was known to be mentally ill and implied that he had escaped justice for his crime.<br />
“I worry about his other children,” Feldman told Wiener, “and I worry about people thinking if he could get away with that, then they can get away with anything.”<br />
This is not the first time Feldman has made this allegation. Indeed, in December of 2008 it appeared on her then anonymous blog, Hasidic-Feminist, where it was described as a “Class A secret.” In the blog post, Feldman recounted the story of a “thirteen year-old boy [who] had been castrated with a jig saw and bled to death.”<br />
The incident, according to Feldman, took place “two years ago on an Erev Shabbos in [Kiryas Joel].” She goes on to elaborate that when Hatzolah arrived at the crime scene (a basement) and tried to question the father, “he refused to cooperate, saying only that his son deserved it and that he was a chazar, a pig, because he touched himself.” Feldman then notes that no police report was ever filed and the boy was “under ground” in 30 minutes. “People of KJ,” she warned, “a murderer walks in your midst.”<br />
While some of the 31 comments on the blog post were credulous of Hasidic-Feminist’s claims, several expressed serious skepticism. At least one claimed knowledge that the death was in fact a suicide and that the young man (who, one commenter noted, was not 13 but 19) was well known to have been mentally ill.<br />
“Our community would not have ignored a murder,” wrote a commenter with the screen name Product, “but anyone familiar with Hasidic culture knows that any mention of a familial disgrace such as suicide would be stifled. This explains why the story is so shrouded in mystery.”<br />
A few commenters even chastised Feldman, in the guise of Hasidic-Feminist, for not reporting her knowledge to the police. “[No] one has gone to the police,” she responded to one of these charges, “because no one wants to be publicly outed as a musser — a tattletale. That’s a sin that merits ‘honor killing.’”<br />
However, The Jewish Week confirmed that the state police do in fact have a record of the incident and its office provided the paper with the names of two of its investigators called to the scene, John Van Der Molen and Michael Colern. Calls to the two officers were not returned Thursday.<br />
Further, a death certificate obtained by The Jewish Week indicates that the death — which it noted occurred in a “storeroom” on a Friday afternoon in Kiryas Joel around the approximate date Feldman’s blog alleged — was ruled a suicide by coroner Thomas A. Murray, and lists the cause of death as “partial decapitation, severed carotid arteries due to circular saw.” The deceased’s age was listed as 20. <br />
Several e-mails to Feldman and her publisher, Simon and Schuster, seeking comment did not receive a response.<br />
Privacy laws prevent Hatzolah from commenting on any case, but Moses Witriol, the director of public safety and chief constable for Kiryas Joel, told The Jewish Week that the story was patently false.<br />
“When the first Hatzolah member showed up on the scene, he cordoned off the area and contacted the public safety office, which in turn immediately contacted the state police. Except for them and the coroner, no other people were in the room [where the boy was found]. The state police conducted a full and thorough investigation and interviewed every member of the family.<br />
“If Mrs. Feldman knows about a crime in the village [of Kiryas Joel],” Witriol continued, “I invite her to come forward to law enforcement.”<br />
Reached by phone, a relative of the deceased told The Jewish Week, “I cannot understand how a person could possibly find it within themselves to fabricate such a gruesome story and slander a completely innocent, grieving and tragedy-stricken family in such a horrific way. The facts are that the boy had a long history of mental illness, and his family and the community did a lot to try and help this individual. It was a very tragic end to a life full of suffering.”Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6920910799387719114.post-16733107188736329182012-02-23T14:34:00.002-08:002012-02-23T14:34:48.346-08:00The Forward-Is Feldman's Story More Than 'Unorthodox'?<div class="blog-entry-date"><small class="post-date" id="story-1">From The Forward </small></div><div class="blog-entry-date"><small class="post-date" id="story-1">February 20, 2012, 7:00am</small> </div><h1 id="headline"> <a href="http://blogs.forward.com/sisterhood-blog/151489/">Is Feldman's Story More Than 'Unorthodox'?</a> </h1><h4> By Debra Nussbaum Cohen</h4><div class="blog-photo" id="article-image-box2" style="width: 290px;"><a href="http://forward.com/workspace/assets/images/articles/2blog-unorthodox-2712.jpeg" rel="blog-lightbox" title="Simon & Schuster"> <img src="http://forward.com/image/2/290/0/5/assets/images/articles/2blog-unorthodox-2712.jpeg" /> </a> <br />
<div class="photo-credit2">Simon & Schuster</div></div>There is something that seems slightly worrisome about <a href="http://blogs.forward.com/sisterhood-blog/151660/">Deborah Feldman.</a> She has written a sensational first book, the memoir <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Unorthodox-ebook/dp/B005GG0M60">“Unorthodox: The Scandalous Rejection of my Hasidic Roots,”</a> which is newly published by Simon & Schuster and grew out of an anonymous blog she kept while trying to work her way out of life as a Satmar Hasid. Now questions are being asked about her veracity.<br />
Her story, which The Sisterhood’s Judy Bolton-Fasman <a href="http://blogs.forward.com/sisterhood-blog/151660/">wrote about here,</a> is riveting: Left by her mother as a very young girl, Feldman’s father is developmentally delayed, and she is raised in Williamsburg, Brooklyn, by his parents. The confines of a Satmar girl’s life, particularly that of a girl whose family has neither money nor lineage to boast of, are rigid. She is married at 17 to a man she’s barely met and becomes pregnant as soon as they figured out how to consummate their marriage.<br />
It is a life most of us can hardly imagine. And as a result, Feldman has been getting lots of press. In addition to <a href="http://youtu.be/b8bcbYf1k-k">a spot on “The View,”</a> the book has been reviewed in <a href="http://www.forward.com/articles/150629/">The Forward,</a> and covered by <a href="http://www.nypost.com/p/entertainment/was_hasidic_jew_but_broke_free_IeRSVA4eX8ypg4Ne8cBdSK">The New York Post</a> and <a href="http://abcnews.go.com/Health/hasidic-jew-runs-orthodox-roots-arranged-marriage-child/story?id=15540395#.Tzk7NFFI0Y5">ABC News.</a><br />
There is much that is shocking in Feldman’s story. Her best friend suffers terrible injury by her new husband when neither of the young marrieds has any idea how things were supposed to work on their wedding night. Another surprise (and I won’t give it away here) is why Feldman’s mother really left her.<br />
Sometimes “Unorthodox” seems written in the voice of a girl still on the cusp of adolescence. And while it is memoir, so of course completely subjective, some of the portrayals of people in her life are so broadly written as to seem like caricatures.<br />
The most stunning of what Feldman writes about is the gruesome murder of a 13-year-old boy by his father, for masturbating, and the subsequent cover up by the Orthodox volunteer ambulance corps Hatzolah. In her book, Feldman says that the boy had his penis cut off and was nearly beheaded by his enraged father, and that the body was buried within 30 minutes after it was discovered in an effort to cover up the crime.<br />
But the New York Jewish Week’s Hella Winston <a href="http://www.thejewishweek.com/news/breaking_news/unorthodox_authors_claim_murder_cover_up_rebutted">now writes</a> that the story Feldman tells is untrue. Instead, Winston writes, a 19- or 20-year-old young man killed himself, and the death was reported to secular law enforcement.<br />
I spoke with Feldman about it on Saturday night. She was defensive about Winston’s story. “I don’t have a response. My response is always no comment. I am not a journalist…You read the book, you saw how I portrayed that story. I don’t even know why you would try to engage about it.”<br />
Other people besides Winston seem to have questions about Feldman and her book. A <a href="http://deborah-feldman-exposed.blogspot.com/">new blog</a> is devoted to “exposing Deborah Feldman,” and the holes it says are in the stories she tells about growing up Satmar.<br />
Whatever the truth, something about Feldman still seems very young, though she is now 25 and the mother of a nearly 6-year-old son. In photos in the Post, posing in a sequined, sleeveless mini-dress, and at pictures on the ABC News website, where she sits on a park bench, wearing high heels, tight jeans and holding a cigarette in her hand, she looks like nothing so much as a young girl posing the way she thinks grownups are supposed to.<br />
She reminds me of 13-year-old girls I see at some bat mitzvahs, teetering around on stiletto heels and wearing minis so short they can’t safely sit down.<br />
Now living on the Upper East Side with her son, she said there is nothing she misses about life in the Satmar community. “Everything I miss I can have,” she said. “If I want cholent, I make cholent. I have it all now. I am just exhilarated by it. There is not even within me even one shred of regret.”<br />
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